This piece was originally posted at www.aba-interventions.com. \r\nPlay skills and social skills should be a part of an ABA treatment plan and are absolutely important for children with autism or I\/DD. Many parents eagerly place their child in social groups, play dates, or insist that their child participates in group activities. These are WONDERFUL if your child is ready, but can be difficult and stressful if they are placed in these groups too soon. First, ask yourself these questions to determine if your child is ready for play dates and social groups:\r\nDoes my child allow peers into his space and allow peers to touch his toys?\r\nIs my child able to successfully sit and engage in leisure activities?\r\nDoes my child have an interest in toys and activities?\r\nIs my child able to engage in parallel play and turn taking?\r\nIf you responded “no”, work with your child’s therapist to write specific play date goals into the treatment plan. If your child engages in frequent, aggressive behaviors or stereotypic behaviors, they may also struggle in play groups.\r\nSimply placing a child in a group environment is NOT social training or an effective play date. Our goal is to teach a child successfully without having to constantly do “damage control.” If a child has a history of negative experiences with peers, your child may be very averse towards peers. Imagine how you would feel if EVERY time you walked into Kroger people bumped into you, yelled and screamed around you, and followed you around asking questions and stealing your shopping cart. If this was your experience every single time, you would most likely avoid grocery shopping. It is our goal to turn that aversive peer experience into an experience that is motivating and positive.\r\nWhen I first begin play dates and social skills groups with early learners, I like to start with a peer model or sibling. Once certain goals have been mastered with a peer model, we can begin generalizing skills to other peers and environments. Remember, we want successful peer interactions…even if our play date is 8 minutes long! We can work up to that 30 minute karate class, the birthday party at the zoo, or some of the other amazing social groups Knoxville has to offer!\r\nHere is a fantastic blog article on special needs playdates!\r\nRemember, appropriate play skills includes more than sharing and sitting next to a peer. Other goals may include:\r\n\r\nKeeping hands to self\r\nGreetings, initiating and reciprocating conversations, staying on topic\r\nResponding and asking questions\r\nEye contact\r\nImitating peers\r\nSocial manners (i.e. asking “what happened” if someone is crying or very excited)\r\nProblem solving with peers\r\n\r\n\r\nAbout The Author\r\nElizabeth Ginder, MSSW, BCBA, LBA is the Clinical Director of ABA Interventions, LLC. Elizabeth specializes in working with children ages 2 through early adulthood. She has experience working with children diagnosed with intellectual and developmental disabilities, as well as children with severe, challenging behaviors. Elizabeth also has a strong background in parent, teacher and staff training. Her focus is on verbal behavior, skill acquisition and teaching children how to have fun! You can find more information on ABA Interventions at their Facebook pageor at www.aba-interventions.com.